I recently had a moment to think back over the last decade of my business to evaluate the primary contribution of my success. Some people will say it was luck, working hard or that I had the best team around me. Nothing can be further from the truth!The truth is that I learned my deepest desires to succeed and beat the odds as an immigrant child, who was raised to believe that women should be seen and not heard, stemmed from my ability to reverse my goals to make a lasting impact in the world. Here is how this works!One of the goals I set for myself in 2010 was to become a “best selling author.” So, I did what most ambitious goal seekers do — I started writing. I created an anthology with a few of my peers and quickly brought it to market. I worked so hard on finding ways to discount the book just so I can make the bestsellers list. I kept posting, buying ads, and trying to “force” other people that had no major impact to “say something great about my book.” In the end, it did not work. I completely took the blame for the failure of us not reaching to the bestsellers list. For the next five years, I did not write at all. It was not until I developed the research for the Confidence Factor for Women that I realized that I focused on the wrong part of the goal. My new question was — how do I create a literary work that will have an impact on the lives of other leaders? When I released the Confidence Factor in 2015, it opened up to rave reviews in the first week without pushing or forcing it. We made it to #2 on Audible and the doors of opportunity began to pour in. I was not focused on creating a best seller, I was seeking lasting impact. In 2012, I wrote down a goal that I wanted to be in Forbes magazine. I did not have a direction for my contribution or anything of value to offer such an elite organization. I spent years pitching myself and my company to their editors, and landed on deaf ears. Then, I found something of substance that contributed to the lives of others. In October 2016, I received my first chance to be featured in Forbes. Now my company is part of their Council. The lesson: Most goals are selfish.Hence, very few accomplish them. They normally start with “I” — I want to be rich — I want to be successful — I want to be an author — I want to be a leader — I want to be famous However, in order to have any of the goals above as your reality, “other” people must be invested in your value. You cannot be rich, a leader or famous without other people patronizing you! All of the new years resolutions are an example of the “me and mine” mentality. As the new year opens up, those who make resolutions about the impact they want to have over others usually succeed. Those who only want the accolades for themselves do not have a reason for the accomplishment, hence giving up. Change your level of impact. It will contribute to the success of your life goals and dreams. This is not about sacrificing your dreams, rather expanding your vision for the benefit of leaving a legacy, which will create abundance and success for you.
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